What Makes Us Change Our Opinion?
It is interesting how one day something switches and we look at old things differently.
Every and each of us has gone through a moment like that. We tend to think that things change with time. But actuality is — things change in a moment. A very subtle moment when we don’t fully realise that it is happening. And shortly after it feels like we have changed our opinion and now it feels different.
Whenever it happens, go back to your core, to the roots of where it all started. You may think of your job, your partner, your flatmate and etc. Think of the first impression and the initial opinion you had. Does it match the current feeling you have?
If it does, then this article is quite irrelevant to you and you are way ahead of the evolution of human species of 21 century. But I would argue that you may confuse it with “oh yeah, I had a positive impression from the first sight”. It is not really about that.
What I am referring to is the depth of what you feel. It is not possible to truly love your job, your partner, your friend from the first moment. Why? Simply because you have no idea what they are. You only project your past experiences and form your opinion based on what you have gone through before. All the components of that “first impression” are very complex and individual, but one is true — it is not enough.
A moment is not enough to build a connection and a real feeling (for the team, for the company or build a commitment, sense of belonging). Only by unfolding the nature of what you are dealing with you can form a deeper understanding and perception.
Time gives you a chance to get to know all the good sides and bad sides. But then, depending on your personal priorities, one of these two will outweigh the other and if it happens to be the “good” side you, will find yourself falling for it — for the job, for the partner, for the friendship.
This is how we build emotional connection — by going through the experiences together. Both positive and negative experience. And there is no shortcut. It requires dedication, hope and faith.
Something kept you going and interested. The more you got to know, the more you wanted to discover.
Of course, you had moments of doubt and hesitation, thinking that this all doesn’t make any sense and you are destined for something else, something bigger and more grandiose. Well, you are not. Stop the fairytale. You have (in this particular moment) what are ready to have. Not a single thing in your life comes to you without you being ready for it. And whatever it is — a new job, new relationship, new apartment, new city — you should make it work.
Remember why you started. You made the choice and now are living it. Give it a full try, let all the experience, feelings, emotions happen. And I promise, if you have listened to your heart and acted upon your values, you won’t regret it.
The moment will come when in the middle of something a wave of deep gratitude will fill in your heart and it will feel warm. Those moments are precious signs that you are on the right path, keep going.
